Grieving families continue to adapt to new normal with funeral restrictions

LINCOLN, R.I. (WLNE): Governor Raimondo has said that social distancing rules cannot be relaxed for funerals, which means all families have to change the way they are mourning loved ones.

Martha Wallick lost her 97-year-old mother who passed away from lung issues, unrelated to COVID-19.

Ethel Wright lived in Florida but will be buried in Lincoln, where she lived for many years.

“With the restrictions in place right now, you can only have 5 people in one place at a time, that includes the funeral director and the minister,” Wallick said.

Wright was the assistant to Lincoln’s Town Clerk for over 20 years.

“So she knew everyone, you go into the town hall you saw my mom,” Wallick said.

Wright had a big family which makes restrictions difficult. They will now have to say goodbye in small groups at Bellows Funeral Chapel in Lincoln.

“My mom had 10 children, 18 grandchildren, 18 great-grandchildren. and 5 great-grandchildren,” Walliwck said

The family is allowed to go to the cemetery but only if they stay in their cars, according to Wallick.

“It’s really hard because at a time like this you would think you could be with your family. Being in a big family, we gather we would cook and be together, but we can’t do that.”

One of Wallick’s sisters lives in Florida and will be at the service virtually. Wright said part of the grieving process involves being with family and friends, especially at a wake.

They plan on having a celebration of life once restrictions are lifted.

“I don’t think anyone would’ve imagined this, it’s surreal,” Wallick said.